Saturday, February 19, 2011

Do as much as you can to look your best.

I think that it’s important to get EVERY POSSIBLE thing going for you that you can. If you have messed up teeth, that doesn’t prevent you from dressing well, so don’t let it. Get a cool hair style. It's alright to ask a stylist what they think would be cool and what looks best. Buy nice clothes and don’t tell me that you don’t have the money for it. Get on eBay, go to the Nordstrom Rack and look at the clearance items. I did it to begin with. If you will do just a few key things, they won’t necessarily help you attract women, but they’ll get rid of things that are preventing you from attracting women.

Take care of the minor things. Look in the mirror before you go ANYWHERE. If your nose hair is to long cut it, remove any earhair, keep your teeth clean and stay well groomed. Make sure your clothes match and take a little time to keep your shoes clean (even I have problems with my shoes since the tips are white and always get so dirty, so easy.)

A list of random things to improve:

· Keep all nails on your body short, clean and neat.

· The only place hair is good is on your head. Keep all other hair trimmed, or have it removed. Bushy eyebrows are not allowed. Wild pubic hairs are also not allowed.

· Keep the teeth clean. Get a tongue scraper and use it a lot. Floss. Use mouthwash. Fix any blatantly wrong teeth. Do it.

· Wash yourself three times when you shower. Dirt and body odors don't come off with just a rinse. Wash your body completely three times before you meet a woman.

· Keep feet, shoes, and socks ultra clean. foot odor is never allowed!

Look your best and stay fresh and so clean clean!

Friday, February 18, 2011

Girls at the bar

What woman think they want and what they really want are two different things. Some of the things I tell you might sound counter intuitive but they are things I know that work.

You may be use to complimenting a girl all the time or even buying a girl you never met at the bar a drink.  She may date you but there's a 90% she wont. A woman wants a man that is a challenge to her. She wants to feel like she has a valued male not someone she feels is inferior to her.

Now for a second, break out of the social norm. Lets break things down. Would you buy a complete strangers anything at the mall? Would you buy the family behind you at McDonald's their food? No, you wouldn't. Why would you buy a random girl at the bar a drink unless you had a motive? A woman would respect you talking to her, getting to know her and then if you really wanted to get her a drink, you can but don't have to. You don't buy your friends drinks all the time. You should be confident enough to say I don't need to bribe her with a drink. You have yourself to offer and good conversation.

What you need to do is value yourself as the prize. You have to get over the mind set that you'd be lucky to have her and start thinking she is lucky to have you. Think about what makes you a good catch! If you dont think you're a good partner neither will she.

When I was first starting out I met this girl who worked doing laser hair removal in Washington DC. I know this because she was so proud and all she talked about was laser hair removal. Everything was going great till we went to the bar for a drink. I felt like I was suppose to buy her a drink. I felt it was my job as a male to buy it.  When she got her drink, my laser hair removal girl was gone. She gave me a kiss on the cheek and said "I'll see you around." The next day, I met a cute blonde who worked for Yahoo doing web design. We were again at the bar and this time I said "you get this round and the next is on me, that's how me and my friends do it". She gladly did it and we had a great time. Nothing ever happened but she is still a good friend.

Remember that you're the prize. Go out there and get um!

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

The beginning

           My first post how do I start? Hmmm, well, I'm not much of a writer but I'll do my best. I'll start out by giving some background information. I'm 5'9 and about 80 lbs over weight. I had plenty of friends growing up but not a lot of girlfriends. I knew how to talk to girls but always ended up in the dreaded friend zone! At the age of 21, Id only been with three woman. Two were only a one time thing and only kissed four girls total! I stayed in a horrible relationship because I had no confidence and thought it was the best I'll probably ever do. Despite the fact that I was miserable, I thought I couldn't find anyone better.

After 2 years of being in this horrible relationship, I had it. Being alone for the rest of my life almost seemed like a better deal. I was to scared to leave my girlfriend so like any chicken I went online to look for help. I bought books, read articles, joined seduction forums, watched countless videos and even called a few strangers online for advice. I stayed with my girlfriend and approached a countless number of woman. I learned through trial and error. I learned that looks aren't as important as I made them out to be. I was getting good at talking to woman, making them laugh and pushing through the anxiety. I eventually left my girlfriend and went on my path. I am by no means an expert but I've come a long way. 

I studied social dynamics and how woman interpret the things you say or do. I went out and practiced these skills. I learned what does and doesn't work. It's one thing to know what to do but you have to believe and be genuine. Its not about changing who you are but being the best you that you can be.

In this blog I want to help the people who are having trouble as well as write about my growth. I still have a lot to learn but I'll post my failers, my victories and everything in between. I'm also here to help you so if you have any question email me at (its on my page also) and I'll post the advice in my blog.